Posts Tagged ‘ fashion ’

Window Shopping

I’ve decided to step out of my comfort zone a bit, fashion-wise. Almost everything I own is black or mostly black and I’ve been dressing Goth-y for about 10 years. I love dressing how I feel, not worrying about trends or what other people think. I really appreciate being able to do my own thing but it’s time to widen my perspective. Bit by bit I want to introduce some color and try things that i really love but  that aren’t what I would run immediately to in a store, things that everyone wouldn’t point at and say “That’s so her.” I love ruffle and lace and pretty things and that’s what I’ve found myself drawn to most. Here is some things that caught my eye while window shopping!

The pattern on that yellow cardigan above is actually lots of skulls! I absolutely adore that lace duster as well.  Skirts and dresses are so much more comfy to me than any pants or jeans. I know it’s the opposite with lots of people but I am just not comfortable in jeans. Give me a dress and  duster over a jeans and a sweatshirt any day!

Do you have a certain way of dressing that you’ve stuck with for a long time?  Have you ever decided to make a change in the way you dress? Was it a big one or a little one? How did people react?


Pleasant Surprise, Fashion-Wise (ha)

I am not one to be a snob about brands or where I shop. I really like mixing it up and finding pieces all over the place. I get a little thrill out of finding something amazing in the most unexpected place and when someone asks me where I got it and I fill them in they react with disbelief. Fun.Even so, I guess I’m not immune to stereotyping stores and avoiding based on what I think I know. I was surprised to come across this article in Chinashop online about a well-known extremely preppy clothing brand/store’s new fall line. Check the pic-

J CREW!  Really. We used to get their catalog at my house when I was a teenager and their clothing was just plain boring. It was the epitome of preppy style.  Yes, the colors are still pretty muted, nothing too harsh in this palette. The military accents, vintage feel, copious layers and fun accessories are a pleasant contrast to what comes to mind when I think of  this brand. Like traditional J-crew, some of the pieces are very simple and worn alone or with other J-crew style clothing they won’t look like much of anything. The genius in this is in the way things are put together and layered.

Guess which one of those outfits I really like?  If you picked anything but the second from the right you just don’t get me and I think we need to break up.

Some of the jackets and accessories may end up as additions to my wardrobe. Anybody else see anything that catches your eye?

Bound By Ink

I don’t know about you but I love magazines. I grew up with Sassy and I still enjoy reading them. Among my Favorites are “Nylon”  “Spin” and “Gothic Beauty.”

Well today while I was picking up “Allure”, I came across a new magazine that seemed quite out of place on Walgreens magazine rack.Between the cover model in a striped corset and mini-top hat and the quality of the layout it just didn’t seem on par with the generic bridal and beauty magazines. It’s called “Bound By Ink.”  It was the premier issue and the cover announces it’s focus on various lifestyles and cultures that are joined by skin art. Unlike the traditional Tatt-mag that merely showcases art and artists this magazine is devoted to the people behind the art, the wearer’s stories and the different subcultures that are associated with this art form. I tore through the gorgeous photos and well-written articles in the first issue and cannot wait for the second!

Seriously, check it out.

Style Crushes!

Have you ever saw someone who really had such killer style  that you couldn’t help but feel something like jealousy and want to immediately discard everything you own and replace it with things “that girl” wears? Her hair, makeup and OH WOW her clothes, so creative, so well-done! This happened to me most recently with Amy, or Shrinkle- famous among  the online beauty community for creating “Sugarpill” her own amazingly cute & bright makeup line.I caught my thoughts surpassing admiration and entering into borderline jealousy and coveting and had to laugh at myself. Now I know that when I feel that way it’s just because someone has a fierce sense of personal style worthy of  checking out and appreciating and not that my own style is lacking. When I was younger, I didn’t understand this concept even a little.

I was very overweight as a little girl. I suddenly shed the majority of my baby-fat the summer between sixth and seventh grades, just before junior high- an optimal time if ever there was one!  Even though I had shed an impressive amount of pounds and my body was maturing I was the epitome of insecure. I had no idea how to handle people having fun at my expense nor did I know how to handle positive attention. I was of the thought that since I was never going to fit in no matter what I tried or did, I might as well be as different as possible and enjoy dressing for school in the morning. I soaked up grunge “fashion” and ended up looking like a colorblind bag lady. Maybe it was because the styles I emulated weren’t on display to suburban 13-year-old however I got the idea of my perfect style from 90’s alt-rock videos, Rolling Stone & Spin magazines, and the occasional people-watching in Boston. I would just be perfecting my grunge look when Nine Inch Nails was the best band ever in our circle so everything that was brown or plaid now had to be black or shiny. When the local bands playing at halls and such became high-school tributes to 70’s punk bands, I was busy the day after my very first show scrounging up safety pins and bleach to alter my jeans and boots. Luckily those stylistic transitions were pretty easily and smoothly made. As I got a little older, while still being impressionable I remember seeing real goths for the first time. Not just kids with all black on but people who spent a lot of time (and hairspray) on their looks. It was intricate and beautiful and I was hooked. This style WAS me. I had already basically been on the path anyhow. I threw myself entirely into becoming GOTH. I dyed my hair purple (the first time, how fondly I remember!) I braided it in a  hundred colored braids running down my back. I pierced my lip and dressed up. I ended up at the goth club as soon as I turned the magical age of 19 (in Boston it’s a year later for some reason) It reduced me to my incredibly insecure self from junior high. I knew I wasn’t “goth enough” after seeing these people. I  didn’t always dress the part and I liked the music but I also liked metal, punk, and even underground hip-hop- did that make me not goth? It felt like being part of a subculture was more limiting than being in the majority of the population.

Bottom line is that I was constantly comparing myself to other people and not measuring up. I adapted my style to others that I saw  always thinking someone else was more “something.” Whatever that “something” was that I wanted to be. Of course you don’t have to completely adapt yourself to a pre-existing style. You should adapt the style to yourself. Or just take aspects of it and leave the rest! You like blue hair and black nails with flower-print dresses? Go for it. You don’t have to live by anyone else’s rules. I love that subcultural styles exist. I just think that sometimes very young people don’t understand that they should function as a jumping-off point, rather than a strict code of dress. Actually, I’ve met some adults that don’t think that way either! I know personally I’ve come a long way because of experimenting within these styles. I’m kind of a hybrid when it comes to dress, people can’t immediately peg me as anything. When I buy something  to wear it’s simply because it appeals to me. Now I wonder if sometime, some chicky will see my style the way I saw Skrinkle?

Article-Staying True to your (alternative) Style part 1

When I was a teenager, Like all teenagers I swore when I got older I would not be one of those style-less fuddy-duddy people that conform to become part of the evil corporate machine. Even as I reached my early 20’s I had managed to get jobs that were OK with my waist-length purple synth-dreads and snakebite lip piercings. I maintained that I would not take out my piercings or change my hair for a job. If they didn’t want me the way that I was and wanted to be, then they couldn’t have me at all.

Last year at age 26 I finally did the unthinkable. I took out all my facial piercings (by this time I had four) and dyed my hair black. It wasn’t even for a specific job! I had been looking for work unsuccessfully for over a month and everyplace I applied mentioned my appearance. I shook it off and swore I would find something that worked with the way I looked. Reality eventually set in of course and money dwindled to the point that just finding work, any work became the top priority. I felt as though I was losing a little piece of myself. I really liked the way my piercings went with my face. I loved changing my hair monthly, trying the most fun and outlandish styles I could achieve. Most of all, I liked being able to say that I always stayed true to my self and my sense of style. Now I became  that old sellout I swore I’d never be.

Or was I?  I had decided that finding work and supporting myself was more important to me. I didn’t change anything because anyone told me to but because I knew that at the point I was at that I either had to change something to move on, or not change and be stuck in place, broke and unhappy. I wasn’t changing because I was being greedy and wanted more money or to move up- just make any money and move forward at all.

What I would like most of all is to have a profession I can be successful at and also look however I want. That is a goal I have set for myself. That will take some moving through the ranks of work and life and putting in my dues in this case requires me to tone my appearance down while in the workplace. There are professions besides being a tattoo artist where you can dictate how you look and not the other way around. I’ll be writing another article about that soon.

Within any subculture there are visual clues, stylistic representations that alert people to what we are trying to express, possibly even what music we like, what our attitudes may be like and overall what cultural group we align ourselves with. When we have to change our style to fit the requirements of a job, we worry that we will no longer express ourselves correctly though our looks,will no longer be recognizable as part of our chosen subculture to others, especially members of that particular subculture.

There are ways to alter your appearance to help you keep your style whether it’s dressing up to go out to a show or club, or trying to look like yourself in a uniform for work. Clothing is the most obvious way to express yourself. Not only do I like to find clothing that I love to wear but I am starting to make and up-cycle my own creations to express myself even further. Fake hair is our friend. Wigs, extensions,falls and all kinds of crazy additions to those things are a fun way to help dress up. Makeup is a big one. I think part of the reason why I am more interested in makeup now than I ever was is because I rely on it  more heavily to express what my piercings (hair,etc) cannot. Tattoos in non-visible places are another thing that is all yours and will help solidify your sense of style. I have designs on my thighs that show when I wear miniskirts and one on my shoulder blade that shows when I wear tanks but neither are visible in typical work clothing or uniforms. Maybe you can’t get away with waist length purple dreads at work but find out if you can have purple streaks. If not a funky color try highlights of black on auburn, or strawberry blonde on red, something that looks neat in natural colors. Haircuts can go a long way to helping you look the way you want when stuck in a uniform so keep this in mind when going to the hairdresser. A uniform-length bob that stops at chin-length will make you look conservative with no other visual clues as to your style. An asymmetrical bob however will look more edgy. Short and spiky with long pieces in the front will look cute and punky on a girl and sexy and cutting-edge on a guy. Angled cuts (shorter in back, longer in front like a V-cut) always look good too. Some workplaces are ok with retainers (clear plastic pieces) worn at work in place of facial piercings. They are nearly invisible and keep the holes open. This wouldn’t work with large gauges, unfortunately.

As much as we may want to tell our future boss off when they tell us we have to change XXX if we want the job, sometimes it’s just not feasible. Sometimes just making a living becomes our highest priority. I truly hope eventually the children of today (or their grandchildren) live in a world where how you look has no impact on how you choose to make your living.  No one wants to be a sell-out  but not being able to roll with life’s changes is equally undesirable. For now, we must learn to practice balance.

Article- Dark Fashion Finds on Etsy vol1

I just tried to post my dark fashion finds from mainstream clothing stores, but unfortunately It came out looking quite wonky because of the way i aligned the pictures chopping up the text. I don’t have the patience to re-post the exact same thing and I also thought it came out looking a little cheesy. I decided I would post my etsy finds instead. I will re-post my first idea also at another time in the not-too-distant future because all of those things were much more affordable. I personally am on a budget but I look forward to when I can actually purchase some of the amazing articles of clothing I have on my Favorites list on Etsy.  There are a lot of darkly Fashionable goodies on the site and since I’ve spent some time perusing and finding these gems, I thought it worthwhile to share them and possibly save you some time hunting! The following are just a few, for the time being.

First is the Rubber Harness shirt & skirt (sold separately) from Masque242 whom I link to on my sidebar because I love her stuff!

And here is a steel boned waist cincher from the same seller, Masque242

Here is a really stunning brocade neck corset from seller DecadentDesignz

And here is a super-cute hair accessory with purple netting from JadeRoseDesigns. Purple is my fave colour!!

Another accessory worth checking out is this unique and affordable necklace from seller WhiteOwl

Pretties, no?

Shoe Lust!



OMG, I simply can’t take any more!  *faints*

Sadly, They are all just a smidge under $200. I am far too broke at the moment for anything more decadent than pay-less. A girl can dream, right?